“Conflicts are opportunities for you and your partner to align on values and outcomes. They are chances to understand, appreciate, and embrace differences.”- Tony Robbins
Conflict, it’s a term we are all familiar with, but do we really understand the depth, the consequence, and even the benefits of dealing with a conflict? It seems obvious that when we define the word conflict, we assume it is the disagreement or differing of opinions that can cause rift between the two parties. Often times, the reasoning behind a conflict can be a build- up of issues and emotions, which can lead to passive aggressiveness due to a lack of communication that is released at one time. Other times, a conflict may come up suddenly due to an acute scenario that can spark up a dynamic reaction. Either way, conflict is universal and we all cross paths with it. Thus, it is important to find healthy ways of managing our emotions to promote a positive outcome.
Conflicts should never be left unresolved, because when conflicts are ignored, it can lead to long lasting problems which can build up overtime and may ultimately end in the termination of a relationship. Hence, it is essential to be able to resolve conflicts in order to overcome the issues, strengthen the relationship, grow as an individual and society as a whole.
So, what are the key takeaways around conflict?
- We need each other. No one can survive or flourish alone.
- Because of this interdependence, we have to listen and learn to appreciate each other’s strengths, even when we don’t agree.
- Lying and withholding creates mistrust while compassion, honesty, and vulnerability create bonds of trust.
- We are more alike than different. Our human needs, our grief and sorrows, our joy, our curiosity and drive transcend particular cultures, prejudices, nationalism.